Pat Phillips
Sasha Sobol: What are your definitions of "man" and "woman?"
Pat Phillips: My definitions: One of the big aspects of the difference between a man and a woman is she is able to bear a child.
SS: Are there any specific gender roles that you think should be there? Are there any you wish did not exist?
PP: Well maybe the fact that a woman is supposed to be kind of soft and sweet and seems willing to take on a burden at times.
SS: Do you conform to the society's gender expectations? Is there anything you do that is not usually associated with your gender? If you do conform, is it more because society expects you to or because you identify with the expectations?
PP: Yes. Well, I do not do anything that's unusual for my gender. And if I did, I do not think I would care what other people might think.
SS: A lot of the time when it's socially acceptable for a man to expose his chest, a woman has to cover hers. Yet when it is socially acceptable for a woman to show her legs, arms, and cleavage (think dresses), the same is not acceptable for a man. What are your thoughts about these two situations?
PP: [talking about the second situation] I think it's a man's point of view and it would make him too feminine, quite artificial.
[talking about the first question] I don't know of any situations where I have ever been in where this was a concern, so I have a different opinion.
SS: In many cases, women and girls are encouraged to embrace their masculine side, while feminine men and boys are looked down upon by society. What do you think about this? Why do you think femininity is seen as less than masculinity? How does this relate to discrimination in the workplace?
PP: I don't believe there's that much discrimination in the workplace, unless you happened to walk into an unusual group of people. I don't agree that women are encouraged to be masculine. I think the majority of women love being feminine. I guess the fact that I don't know too many masculine women puts me on a difficult situation because I don't agree with the premise.
SS: Is it important to make the world a more welcoming place for gender nonconforming people? If so, how can this be done?
PP: I don't think it's important to go around changing people. And I think we're all happy just the way we are and I think a feminine man is just as happy.
SS: Is there anything else you would like to add?
PP: Actually, no except it's been fun talking to you.Note: This was my first ever in-person interview. I randomly asked this lady to do my interview and have absolutely no idea who she is. As it usually happens when you do something for the first time, I made a mistake. Actually, two mistakes. First, instead of recording the interview and transcribing it later, I frantically typed what she said. The other mistake was that I was only writing down her answers to the questions and nothing else that made the interview a conversations instead of it just being a bunch of questions and answers without any record of interaction.
This interview was done in person.